In reality, your life will change no matter what option you choose. Any choice will bring many changes. You may be risking the very things you hope to protect…career, relationships, peace of mind.

Statistics show that 70% of all relationships break up within 3 months of an abortion. Once a crisis such as an unexpected pregnancy hits, life never goes back directly to what was…there are new issues to deal with.

Even the closest of relationships have often not been able to weather an abortion. Together you will have a baby-decision…to parent together (whether you marry or not), to place for adoption, or to abort. Abortion is only done when there is a baby….it is done for no other reason. With abortion, there is no turning back.

Some parents react with anger and disappointment not because they think less of you as their child, but because they care about you and worry about you, and want you to experience the best in life. They, too, are concerned with your future. In most cases, parents turn out to be your best support system. Give them time to get over their initial shock and you will find they love you enough to support you through any crisis.

How will abortion help an already troubled situation? Make no mistake about it, abortion will affect you, and may even seem to help in the beginning. Unfortunately it often leaves you with a whole new set of problems you haven’t counted on in the days and years to come. Aborting a baby will not take away problems already existing. It will, in fact, add to them. Talk to those who have been there!

You can’t know what is necessary until you know what first is right. “Necessary” is never on the side of wrong.” You should never change your value system in any decision. You will forever regret it.

Sometimes decisions are rationalized out of fear, embarrassment, or life circumstances. Our stomach is often a better indicator of what we really feel, and about our sense of values than our head is. Our heads can justify almost anything, our stomach often lets us know what our conscience is trying to say to us. Are you at peace with your decision or are you anxious? What is your stomach trying to tell you?

It is easier to become numb in a crisis situation than to deal with all the overwhelming feelings that invade the mind! So many feelings come to the surface—fear, anger, guilt, confusion, anxiety, embarrassment, helplessness, loss of control in the situation. The proverbial rug has just been pulled out from under you and nothing is the same as it was just a few days before.
Feelings tell us where we are, so we have a chance to think things through step by step. If we choose not to think, and instead go ahead with quick decisions or take what we think is the easy way out, too often we live with regret. The only choices we should make are informed choices. Let feelings surface and work through the anger. Get knowledgeable about pregnancy facts. Get knowledgeable about abortion procedures and their risks. Learn about post-abortion syndrome. Do not go into any decision blindly.